A lot of the time, moms have this feeling that something terrible is about to happen, and really, we don’t even know what it is! What if my husband is not home from work yet because he is seeing someone else? What if my child gets bullied in school? What if this headache is actually brain tumor? My child isn’t home from school yet, she might have been kidnapped! Mothers can get really crazy overthinking.
The truth is, everyone worries. Though some worrying actually helps you cope and function (like being stressed out about your child not passing his/her exams, for example, can help motivate you to prepare him/her better for it), too much worrying creates tension and anxiety, which zaps concentration and just makes you unable to cope.
Remember this, my dear mommies: A scared mom will raise scared kids, and a brave mom will raise brave kids. Let us not project your fear on to our children. Whenever our kids see our fears in our parenting, it doesn’t help them achieve their full potential.
How do we overcome this worry? Here are some tips!
1. Recognize that you are worrying.
You may jot down a worry when it comes into your head. Recording your thoughts is called self-observation, and this can help diminish the intensity of your anxiety and its effect on you. While writing down what’s worrying you, you’re better able to understand it, which helps it feel more contained and manageable. Do a reality check and figure what are the chances that this worry will actually happen? Can I do something about it? This can help you see that the worries may be exaggerated, that you’re over worrying and that you have things more under control than you thought.
2. Make a plan.
The more you worry, the more out of control you feel, which makes you worry even more. Putting action steps in writing can give you a handle on the situation. After you list down your specific worries, write down two or three concrete things you can do about each one. If you’re stressing about something that could happen (but hasn’t yet), write down what you would do if it did.
3. Cover the family with prayer.
When we pray over our kids, we are wielding our greatest weapon against the onslaught of the enemy, and we are asking God to shield them with His hand of protection. Prayer is able to go where we cannot, and do what our limited abilities cannot handle. There’s no limitation with prayers. And when your kids see how you pray about all that concerns them, you are also reinforcing their ability to trust in God and to also live worry-free lives.
You may watch this video of my baby girl Ysha reciting The Lord’s Prayer before going to sleep. 🙂
4. Find time to relax your mind and body.