Have you ever had weird middle-of-the-night thoughts while you were pregnant? Did you ever wonder whether you’d still be the same person after becoming a mom?
As you enter a new stage of your life, YOU WILL CHANGE.
Life with a newborn is worlds away from the child-free life. Your main concern prior to having children might have been how to climb the corporate ladder, your most urgent thought after giving birth is whether you have enough diapers on hand. This example alone shows that you have changed! The person you were then is not the person you are now.
There’s no denying it! After giving birth, your priorities change. Different issues take precedence at different stages of your life. And when you are a mom, THE KIDS COME FIRST!
Research tells us that a lot of change happens when we choose to have babies, and that a mother is not the same person she was before having children. According to Scientific American, almost all female mammals undergo “fundamental changes” during pregnancy and after birth and that pregnancy and lactation hormones may alter the brain, “increasing the size of the neurons in some regions and producing structural changes in others.”
When I became a mom, there is such a fear and knowledge that the pain of a loss is beyond anything I ever want to experience. I have so much more empathy with others. I feel like every child on my Facebook news feed is my child! I believe that if you were the kind of person who is quite emotionally detached, that will change once you have your own little earthlings.
I used to be scared of not being able to achieve my dreams. The competition on my chosen field is tough and I worry if I am ever gonna make it. Now, my fear is that I can’t provide everything that my kids need. I fear that I won’t be capable of giving them the best chances in life.
Motherhood spurred me on to become a better writer. A mommy blogger. I found that my writing ambitions only gained clarity once I got pregnant and I realized that I haven’t wasted that gift but an even bigger opportunity has opened up for me.
Oxford Academics said that during pregnancy, fetal cells enter and spread throughout the mother’s body. “Microchimerism”, the presence of cells “with a different genetic background” within your body. The researchers collected samples from 26 women who had been pregnant with sons and found the presence of Y chromosomes in all of them.
That’s solid proof that, after becoming a mom, you’re not the same person. But it’s always our choice whether motherhood will turn us into a boring, irrelevant or haggard mom or someone motherhood has changed for the better. Like how becoming a mother taught me how to use all the available time. 😀 The unavoidable fact, though, is that pregnancy, birth, and parenthood will change us profoundly.
When I became a momma, I kinda lost the ‘me.’ But obviously, we all need a bit of ‘me’ time now and then, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Now I am more than ‘me’. I’m a mother. I don’t think the core of who I am has changed. I am still me. I haven’t changed, but I have grown. My heart is bigger and it overflows with an untarnished, uncomplicated, and pure love for Ysha and Yana. It is regenerating to see the world through their eyes. We make daily escapes to fantasy worlds filled with imaginary creatures. We discover the bigger world through travels and adventures.
Life is better and more beautiful with my lovely daughters in it. I have changed. I learn to love and appreciate my life more because I am mother.